5 things every teen needs to know about break ups

Found this "interesting" article onthe web... thought i would share it with everyone.

By Andrea Prisby

"How do I live without you, I want to know/ How do I breathe without you, if you ever go/ How do I ever, ever survive/ How do I, how do I, oh how do I live"
~ LeAnne Rimes

Ms. Rimes said it right. When a break up happens, you don’t know how you can live without that person. It is true; breaking up is hard to do. Unfortunately, it happens to most everyone. I came up with a few words of wisdom that should help you understand the break up and help you crawl out of the pits of despair.



It is not the end of the world.
You have heard this from your parents and friends. But what does it really mean? You may be feeling the most immense amount of pain possible right now. Break ups can even affect you physically – sick to your stomach, not eating, overeating, etc. You may even feel like crawling into a hole and dying. But guess what? You won’t. You have to hurt in order to heal. You will continue living and breathing. Even this intense pain, this suffering, will not kill you. Unite this suffering with that of Christ. You have to trust that God wants you to heal. He wants you to live.

look like it, but your ex is hurting too.
A lot times in break ups, when you see your ex, he/she seems happy and great, not even phased. And that can be disheartening because you know how much pain you are feeling and they seem like nothing even happened. Well, they are. Guys and girls handle emotions differently. Some can just avoid the hurt and pain, while others dwell in it. We can easily put on masks that make things look “okay.” And that hurt gets bottled up and eventually comes up in the wrong places and to the wrong people. So allow yourself to hurt because you don’t want that hurt to surface in future relationships. Just pray for your ex that he/she will allow themselves the same.


You choose to move on, no one can do that for you.
When you experience a break up, you have two choices: to move on or to dwell in the sorrow of the past. Now, I understand that when your heart feels like it is in a million pieces, it doesn’t feel like you have a choice. You do. By dwelling on your pain and self-pity, you are choosing to hold on to that relationship. By moving on, you are choosing to let go of that relationship. This choice may take some longer than others to realize. Look at these lyrics: "Well I know it wasn't you who held me down/Heaven knows it wasn't you who set me free/So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains/And we never even know we have the key" – The Eagles. You hold the key. Are you keeping yourself in chains?


It’s okay to like someone else.
When you choose to move on (notice I said “when”), it is weird to like another person in the same way that you liked your ex. It is scary and hard to allow yourself to be vulnerable again. But it’s okay! It’s okay to move slowly and to like another person. Even if your ex has a hard time with it, you are no longer with that person; therefore, you are free to like whom you wish. This may be one step for you to move on. You learn something from each relationship. Use that in your next relationship.


Believe it or not, you are right where God wants you to be.
This place, right now, is where you are meant to be. I am not saying that God wants you to be hurting and in pain and destined this relationship to fail. I am saying that through this “state” you are in right now, God is drawing you closer to Him. He is teaching you to be at complete peace and complete happiness with Him. God wants you to rely only on Him, not on any human. He is the only one that will make you truly happy, not any human. All this pain and suffering, you do it for Him. Do everything for the glory of God. “I consider that the sufferings of this present time are as nothing compared with the glory to be revealed for us.” -Romans 8:18